Monday, December 19, 2011


Not sure if this happens with everyone..

Wanting to forgive someone for something they did that really hurt you, but you are afraid that they will do it again...and you try hard to get over it but it always stays at the back of your mind and comes out even at the best of times and it pisses you off again.

Tough time..but this too shall pass.

Saturday, October 29, 2011

My Favourite Movie

I love both to envision and to picturise in mind, the moments of my life. My life is my most favorite movie and I find it the most interesting to capture the fleeting moments of my life. However all the so bashed moments of life are not always necessarily sweet, thanks to those rude ones who have 'villain'ed me in their movie of life. But I do not break down as I know that being rude and cruel to me is the limitation of other people. As the saying goes - we shouldn't die of other person's cancer. Let them be rude to us. Between the hated and hater, it is always the hater who suffers more. If they don’t know how to behave, that is their inadequacy. I never take it too personal. The need of the hour is a bit of maturity - those with '>' maturity suffer '<' as compared those with '<' maturity.

Any issue if taken to heart is sure to hurt. A piece of chalk held too close to our eye will cover the entire sky. Holding it at a distance will just make it an insignificant piece of chalk, which it is in real in fact. My English lecturer in college says: 'We can please some people all the time. We can also please all people sometimes. But we cannot please all the people all the time.' Learn to leave petty things petty and life will be pretty. Instead if we see petty things pretty, life will seem petty. Do not worry for these moments of life; just do not bother to capture them onto your movie. All those uncaptured moments would be frisked away by the hands of the clock, long forgotten and lost forever.

Just continue to celebrate your movie of life. The story ahead is beautiful. You have to believe so, and I bet yours will be the most interesting movie ever lived.

Monday, October 17, 2011

The Gift called LOVE

Recognizing the heart behind a material makes it a gift. Gift is not just a substance but a point of view to look out at the heart behind the presenter. The gift becomes just a matter when it isn’t presented with a good intent. Love is the most precious of all the gifts in this world. You can never do enough for somebody you love. Craving of love doesn’t cease by receiving love but ceases only by giving love. Without the faith that intentions of my loved one will be right, love will not survive. People need not always be right. They can be wrong too. But there has to be this faith that the wrong may be in the action and not in the intention. Never let the justifications of the world become your justification. Live your character at any cost, at all costs. Anger in response to anger is more anger. Likewise love in response to love is more love and it eventually is the pathway to heaven. Whatever state your life is at present, take a moment to love it because tomorrow it will only be a memory. I am grateful to God for a gifted childhood with lots of lovely people to love me to the core, and I am sure He will continue gifting me with the best of love I deserve.

Love the love!

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Less = More ?

Familiarity leads to liking; familiarity breeds contempt.

The saying originated from age old Aesop’s fable means: Uncertainty about each other leads to liking, whereas familiarity can raise dislikes.

This may be due to the multiplicative nature of the differences. Once an evidence of difference is stumbled upon, subsequent instances and information are more likely to be interpreted as further evidence of dissimilarity, leading to loss of mutual interest. People who know us well may not be so tending to be familiar with the excellence in us. But this saying cannot be totally true as we will be put to thinking as to how then can people stay happily married. However this holds more relevance within official space. If a boss or a manager is too familiar with his subordinates, he may not enjoy the necessary degree of respect. Same holds true with a mistress and her servant maids.

I have learnt from my parents that the secret to a happy togetherness is just loyalty and trust (towards self and on the other person). That's it, nothing more. In my perception, not being familiar enough breeds contempt in marital life. Perhaps the secret to a good marriage is becoming more familiar with your partner every day. In fact familiarity may breed love. However, the saying can pave its way if the personal space and personal boundaries are not well set, i.e., when the personal space and boundary is either set too less or too much.

Contempt arises only when what is shared is not with mutual agreement of both the individuals, and one or the other person politely goes along with something they dislike. Each time they do it they build more resentment, which from then accumulate. If both are in sync with each other, all seems great. It lies in our hands not to make contempt the end of the story. We need not have to stay bored of each other. Instead we can work to remind ourselves to set our vision upon the goodness and loveliness in our dear one and be re-enchanted. There is always the hope of a new day. I am still too young to comment further on this.(Laugh out loud)

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Do you know Tamil?

It was funny while travelling to office in the morning today by shuttle. As always I took the last seat and immediate left to me were seated two girls, seemingly freshers. There was no charge left in my mobile and i somehow forgot to take the ipod today. I was thus left with no means of listening to music and hence for a change decided to stay awake and watch the passersby while travelling. And this conversation in tamil, of the two girls left to me suddenly caught my attention. One of them was like: "Hey see her shoes di...I just love it..can we ask her where she got it". The other went like : "See her hair di..we'll better ask the shampoo". I
acted as if I didn't overhear them but was laughing within. The first girl again went like: " I hope she doesn't understand tamil", to which the second added: " No ways di...she doesn't look a tamilian and is not even looking at us". They started giggling which broke my prior-controlled laughter. I turned to look at the girls and their face had that typical embarrassed expression which made me feel sorry for having made them realize I know the language Tamil. But this led to further chat between us and now I have two new friends/shuttle-mates. Yippee!!!

It always happens that people surrounding me, who are new to me, often chat within groups in their native language, thinking I do not understand what they speak. But alas! poor they. They always regret for such funny talks later when they get to know me in person. I love travelling by bus [I rarely get a chance] and never think twice if someone asks me if we can travel by bus, for this specific reason. It is lovely to see a number of people chat in different languages and to enjoy the feel of understanding all of them, secretly. Hushhhhhhhhh.........

Monday, May 23, 2011

Wavelength = 'x' lambda; x=?

The theory of wavelength measured in lambda have always fascinated me. A lot of human emotions too can be measured in lambda. For a pessimist, the metaphor for wavelength can be that something which will flow away with time. Two people may have great lambda between them for a reason that they share similar likes or similar lifestyles. Interestingly, the opposite too holds true. It is quite complicated to understand the theory of wavelength fully and by the time one understands it, half the lifetime would already have gone with the waves. And to add, I am not the only one who whiles away the time researching on it. Cheers to all of such!

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Empowerment of Women in India

When I switched on the TV today, I happened to stop at a channel which telecasted a documentary on women empowerment in India. The presentation was centered around in showcasing that women in India do not enjoy equal status as men. But I felt the whole of what they said, pointless and baseless. It is foolishness to talk still about empowerment of women in India because Indian women enjoy all the rights and privileges which isn't seen still in America or the foreign countries. In India, if we have seen the hair of our great-grannies shoven; we have also seen Indira Gandhi becoming the prime minister of India, Pratibha Patil becoming the president of India and Jayalalitha becoming the chief minister of Tamil Nadu for the third time now, a privilege which the foreign women may not enjoy even after maybe 10-20 years too. Here it is not about women not enjoying their rights and status; its all about the self-chosen 'fate' or I may rather put it as 'U' yourself need to design your destiny and future.

What not? Even our own Ash's statue has now reached Tussauds wax museum.

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

The Final Solution : Silence!

I was in a good frame of mind while leaving office today and hence while travelling back home, decided to post a blog. Also to mention is an excited blogging competition happening hushed, with a friend of mine. Reached home by 5:30 PM. A little later did arrive my sweet (grr...I meant the other way) sister. As she entered home did she declare that none will be allowed to enter my room (shared with her) till she completes her month long MS semester exams..phew!

I lost all my mood for the day as all my belongings; underline all, were in this room of ours and even the cable to connect the net to my lappy was wired in through the window of this room. Little did she pity on me when I checked if at least ‘I’ can enter the room and stay silently in a corner without a disturbance to her. At this I asked my dad to help me move the several meters long cable wire from our room to my parent’s room (where I am not entry restricted). My dad was already a bit suspicious; I would rather say uncomfortable, with this newly acquired online presence of mine. To add, I sounded a bit desperate while checking for help. Soon came the prompt reply that he is busy currently watching this program on TV and that I need to wait till tomorrow for him to help me do the move. Poor me :(

It seemed to me that he was expecting my protest. I maintained silence and sat along with mom and dad to watch the TV program which I generally don’t prefer watching. It was hardly 5 minutes on clock that my dad's eye of empathy opened wide. He was suddenly like, 'Dear, come let me help you switch the cable'. You can’t imagine how glad I was on this pity of him. Voila! I was connected online in next few minutes.

So true: Silence pays, though not always...:D

Tuesday, May 17, 2011


I remember still, in my lower primary days it was because of these 'Fill up the blanks with a yes/no' questions, that I scored a mark or two more than my fellow competitor, to top the class. But as years passed by, I feel the need to evaluate myself on my compendium over arriving at a conclusion of 'yes' or 'no'.

Life is all about knowing where to invest 'my time'. You can reach where you want to reach tomorrow, only if you invest enough of your today in the direction of tomorrow. The investment can take the form of principles, values, friends, property, or not to miss mentioning money. But the 'my time' may intersect with 'our time' as we live in a world which teaches us the importance of sensitivity, maturity and social responsibility. With due respect to it has to be taken a choice of 'yes' or 'no'.

Now you there, you and you alone are responsible for all your choices. No blame is allowed ever. Many time we decide on 'yes' because we fear of how the other person may react over our 'no'. Face your fear fearlessly. Do not let others mould you; shape yourself. It is, to have a ready 'yes' for what is important and more importantly, to have the control to say 'no' to the 'I dont have to do' aspects of life. The greatest happiness one can derive is to be able to say, " I had enough time for everything that I believed was important".

Now there is my friend inviting me for an outing this weekend whereas my plan is to take a day long beauty sleep. What shall I answer her now?, wait a sec...lemme re-think on it.